Over thanksgiving dinner, into our third glass of wine, he says, "So you are neurodivergent, right?" "Of course," I smile, "probably at least a bit autistic, you know." "I knew it!" he exclaims, "That date when we were making out…

Let me see you. No, not like that. Not on the days you’re best dressed and you have your skin perfectly shaved and your eyes look rested and alive. Not on the days you take yourself to work on the…

The true meaning of aloha brings to mind the image of Pacific Islanders, nose to nose, looking into each other’s eyes and literally sharing breath, saying “ALO”; to front, to face, to present ;then saying “HA”; to breathe, to exhale.…

11/25/22 Power tools. I’ll admit it. I’m definitely not the handyman we, many of us, probably including me, assume that every man to be. It is as if it is a genetic credential for having the Y chromosome you have…

I think of all the times in recent years that I want to be on my own. In some ways it's gotten harder, not easier, in our 41 years together, but this has also been tempered by growing equanimity, acceptance,…

I realize that the thing i want most in the world is an audience. So, this one was easy: whenever i want you is when i have something to share: a performance, a song, a role onstage, a laugh, and…

My arms are heavy, like a wet wool blanket has been dropped on them. a thick numb slab, The muscles in my face drop open, drop away, my jaw slack. There is as scratch deep down, I can feel it…

I smear charcoal onto paper. Sometimes on canvas, sometimes on a wooden substrate. My fingers sooty from smearing the dust, they resemble blackened, overused erasers. I’m probably treating the paper the same way a mechanic treats a disposable rag -…

"I love you, Lynn, but this is my ..." Instead of finishing his sentence, Dave hands a picture of his mom to his dad. Dave's mom, who is also my husband's first wife, is in her graduation robes and holding…

So you dare me, right, Pete? Well, I can't make you think about gratitude or anything else, because you're 18 now, and I know you've had a bad time during the last year. All I can do is tell you…

Mary, James and I : doing the most basic goth / emo thing possible - clicking photos at the busted up cemetery. The crusty tombstones, the empty space...it was perfect. I recently discovered these old photos clearing out a junk…